Military Marriages
You know what aggravates me are these military marriages that happen between young 20 somethings. I never was around military people until I moved to San Diego. A couple things you notice when you move to San Diego is everyone here is from somewhere else and all the people that are in their 20's and are married are married to someone in the military. It makes me laugh when I meet these young married couples in their early 20's b/c they actually think their relationships are going to last forever! A good example is to go on myspace and search San Diego / Females 18-26 and you'll find a ton of woman that are married to military men. In these women's profiles you will find very provacative photos & all their friends are guys that write comments relating to how sexy they are and blah blah blah. These woman shouldn't be married b/c they are way too young to settle down. They are still at that stage in their life where they want guys attention and are super insecure so they flaunt their sex appeal for compliments. Their husbands don't give them the attention they really need b/c the guys are too immature and haven't been in enough relationships to realize how to make a woman happy. Shit, I'm 25 and I'm still learning from every relationship how to make a woman happy.The question stands why do these military guys and girls get married? Simple! The guys get married because they feel they are grown ups and are ready for anything especially since they are in the military and have been around the world, etc... The girls get married because they think its romantic to marry someone in the military. (i.e. WWII Love Stories) They think they are ready for a family and to settle down.
I hear these stories and see these marriages and I say to myself it's only a matter of time before they are a statistic and the marriage is over ending in divorce.
If you have lived or do live in San Diego presently you know what I mean and if you don't then you are blind!
Gregg
i think it's romantic to marry a military man cause probably he'll die. that's really romantic plus then you're rid of him
Posted by Anonymous | October 03, 2005 11:02 PM
plus you'll get his life insurance policy..you're always thinking!
Posted by Gregg O'Connell | October 03, 2005 11:03 PM
I married military for the health benefits. No co-pay!
Seriously though, I think you're right but will say there is always an exception and typically a difference between enlisted and officers wives.
Posted by squishy81 | October 04, 2005 8:11 AM
ok I see what you're saying. That basically the young/stupid marriages mostly happen with the newly enlisted and not the officers.
Good point!
Posted by Gregg O'Connell | October 04, 2005 8:59 AM
I think military marriages are fine. You must be a liberal fuck. If young people want to get married they will. You might just want to mind your own business. I bet your single and alone choose to sit back a ridicul others. Get a life.
Posted by Anonymous | October 04, 2005 11:10 AM
I'm as much a liberal as you are a redneck! You probably voted for Bush and are against gay marriage!
I value your opinion but you obviously haven't lived in San Diego or if you have you are either blind or just too dumb to see!
Love Gregg!
Posted by Gregg O'Connell | October 04, 2005 11:14 AM
My best friends sister got married and pregnant before her husband left for war so that if he died, she and their child would be set for life and she wouldn't have to work. AKA Life insurance... And I'm sure it's romantic and stuff too...
Posted by Anonymous | October 04, 2005 5:27 PM
that sounds pretty romantic.
how old are they?
Posted by Gregg O'Connell | October 04, 2005 5:45 PM
dude, thats a bit off base, you sound a bit bitter, i dont think all these young couples have an ill intent, but are experiencing life,you dont get there without trying, maybe u should marry a military man in san diego,
Dr Steve
www.sjlproductions.net
Posted by steve lamontagne | October 05, 2005 12:58 AM
I don't think Gregg is saying these young couples have ill intent. He's just saying that these couples are too young therefore it makes them immature, unrealistic, unprepared and too hasty to really make a relationship work long-term. I think relationships are really great, but they are also a lot of work and they take a lot of compromise and patience. To me a relationship is not going to work if a girl is so concerned with the male attention she gets from men other than her husband. There's nothing wrong with wanting and getting that attention, for someone who is SINGLE. But that's why you WAIT to get married until you're really ready to commit!
Posted by Coleen | October 06, 2005 9:51 AM
Gregg,
Hmmmmm lots of marriages fail all over the US. The military do sometimes get married for the wrong reasons. But military life is always not so easy either. They do have the added dissadvantage of deployment, moving, and so on. For example I am in the Marine Corps stationed in Japan. This is mostly a unaccompied tour which means married or not you are coming here alone. It is hard on realationships being away for 2 years. I think you have never been in the military and don't have a basis to base your comments. Also I am getting married to a Japanese woman who majors in college for international realations. I am on my second enlistment and am a Cpl in the Marine Corps. Oh yeah I am 22. Sorry for the mis-spellings
Posted by Adam Nemethy | October 09, 2005 8:37 PM
Adam,
my comment on military marriages is general point and obviously doesn't apply to all marriages.
You are right I haven't been in the military nor would I ever want to be but the marriages I have seen that are military related since I've moved out to San Diego seem to have cracks and holes that seem bigger than the marriages that are unmilitary related. I think it has alot to do with these kids getting married at such a young age. Marriages that are not military related are seemingly happening in couples that are in their late 20's/30's.
Gregg
Posted by Gregg O'Connell | October 09, 2005 8:43 PM
Good point. The general rule is everyone that lives near military bases dislike military because the masses do a lot of stupid things but areas where no bases are around love us lol. Well I was wondering do you work with marriage in someway?
Posted by Adam Nemethy | October 09, 2005 8:51 PM
I'm not married yet (thank God haha).
I've worked with and have met many young people that are married and affiliated with the military thats how I am such an expert =P
Gregg
P.S.
how did you find my site?
Posted by Gregg O'Connell | October 09, 2005 8:54 PM
googles blogger search. I think I will add your pod cast. I would like to start my own sometime.
Posted by Adam Nemethy | October 09, 2005 8:57 PM
oh cool =)
ya podcasting is easy stuff! if you need help lemme know.
Gregg
Posted by Gregg O'Connell | October 09, 2005 8:59 PM
I have never done a pod cast before do you have an email address for easy communication?
Posted by Nemo | October 09, 2005 9:04 PM
gregg@greggoconnell.com
Posted by Gregg O'Connell | October 09, 2005 9:21 PM
got my blog started
Posted by Nemo | October 09, 2005 11:05 PM
well greg i don't live in san diego but i am married to a marine in havelock north carolina...( cherry point) and i some what agree on your marriage views. BUT that doesn't apply to all military marriages. Maybe before you put down marriage you should ask these as you would say "young 20's" what they were thinking. i am sure 7 out of 10 couples did it for the right reasons.... girls like squishy81 obviously married for the wrong reasons. you don't marry someone so you can get health benefits... i dont know if i could with with my self knowing that i mooch off of a man that i just married for his health benefits.... she will be a divorce statistic. email me at tonimitchell05@yahoo.com for you comment i doubt i will ever visit this site again
Posted by Toni Roberts ( proud and happy wife of a US MARINE) | December 05, 2005 3:23 PM
I honestly doubt 7 out of 10 military marriages are for the right reasons. The majority of these marriages happen for better pay, health benefits and easier housing.
Do you honestly think these couples if they were together without being in the military would get married?
I bet 9 out 10 would not be getting married!
Gregg
Posted by Gregg O'Connell | December 05, 2005 3:31 PM